Hello, my name is Sarah and I am a thirty year old virgin.
Yes, you read that correctly.
Today, I am engaged to the love of my life and by the grace of God he too, is a virgin.
I realize that this is a gift.
A gift that we both have waited to be with one person and to save ourselves until we say “I Do.”
I know this isn’t everyone’s story.
But what I do know is that God is the God who redeems all of our stories and makes everything so beautiful.
I didn’t grow up in the church. I definitely was exposed to the idea of sex before marriage because it’s in our worlds culture. How can you not see it? It’s everywhere!
Two people are in love, they find their “person” and the emotions lead up to desiring a further intimacy to make that connection stronger.
Honestly, our culture has devalued the intimacy and beauty of what God had created sex to be.
It is something that is supposed to be beautiful, sacred, honoring, holy, and for marriage. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8)
I was not immune to “purity culture.” The discussions were of “saving yourself until marriage” and “just don’t have sex.” I will admit, I fell into judgment of those who struggled with sexual sin or those who chose to have sex before marriage. Of course, I wanted to be married and wait until marriage. But I was quick to point fingers and not fully understand the temptation and truth behind “waiting” and how much we need the “Helper” to guide us in the waiting and fully trust Him.
To my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ who are waiting until marriage: the wait will be worth it!
God's timing will be worth it. Because you are worth it. God will honor your trust and obedience to Him in the waiting by showing you that He is your everything.
Your spouse won’t complete you. Only God can and He will.